Your Resonant Self – Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing
by Nina from MindGourmet
The Challenge of meeting ourselves with warmth and compassion
“My parents were sweet people but, in a way, they didn’t know how to be kind to themselves and there wasn’t a lot of warmth for self in our system.” Sarah left home unsure about how to be kind to herself.
A lot of us have such a big capacity for compassion, gentleness, kindness and warmth for the world, but very little for ourselves. “We know how to flow it out, but we don’t know how to turn around and give it to ourselves,” says Sarah.
She set out on a quest to learn how we can have a warmer, kinder, and more compassionate relationship with ourselves and documented her findings in her groundbreaking book Your Resonant Self – Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing.
We need to make sense
By the age of 18 months we have integrated the level of warmth and understanding of the people that are taking care of us.
The beautiful thing is, that even if we haven’t been met with a high level of warmth and understanding as a young child, we can learn it later in our lives.
The benefits of resonant language
Our nervous systems automatically settle when we receive signals that we are known, and that others understand us.
When we see and feel that we’re making sense to others our brains grow, support our immune system, and decrease our cortisol.
To have the experience of being understood and met with warmth and curiosity we need to feel resonance. Many of us haven’t received resonance in the amount we needed in the early years of our lives.
Resonant language helps us establish a relationship with ourselves, in which we hold ourselves with warmth. It supports us in healing our brains and growing into a sense of wholeness.
Sarah and I talked about so much more! Enjoy!
- Sarah’s path of becoming who she is today (02:50)
- Using our own name when we speak to ourselves (04:10)
- Our capacity to let each other know that we make sense and to receive understanding begins before we can speak (06:00)
- Resonant language makes epigenetic changes possible (10:00)
- Unconscious contracts and trauma (14:40)
- Implicit and explicit memory and why it is so important to be able to put a time stamp on traumatic memories (17:30)
- The inner critic (25:00)
- The vital emotion of anger – how can we be warm and angry at the same time (30:10)
- Example for letting go of an unconscious contract: Nina and her relationship to anger (31:20)
- The three frozen states of anxiety; depression and energy; the power of Resonant Language (36:25)
- The epidemic of loneliness (42:20)
- Empaths and resonance – can we resonate too much? (44:25)
- Ways to learn from and work with Sarah (47:50)